“The Somatica Method is a holistic, loving and systematic approach to sex and relationship coaching that invites people to move beyond shame, clarify their needs and boundaries, live emotionally connected and erotically embodied lives, and experience the joy and satisfaction of great sex and authentic relationships. The skills required for success in sex and relationships are learnable and the Somatica training offers a comprehensive and systematic approach to learning these skills. The Somatica Method is pleasure-based, interactive and experiential and based on up-to-date neuroscience research about how people learn, connect and experience personal growth.” – Somatica Institute
I chose to pursue coaching after two years with a gifted couple’s therapist that was amazing in every aspect except human sexuality. At the time I was also studying to get a Master’s in Counseling Psychology. Somatica offered what was missing in both and I took a leap that would transform my personal and professional life.
My personal story is not uncommon. After years in long term partnership and becoming a mother, I lost touch with myself as a sexual person. Culturally, we have a huge deficit in accurate and comprehensive sex education, not to mention healthy relating. My partner and I lacked the knowledge and skills required to sustain desire and arousal in our long term relationship. In addition to this, it was difficult to avoid the subtle and not so subtle messages that imply that motherhood and sexuality are not compatible. I was pretty shameless about sex in my single years – I enjoyed it and felt entitled to pleasure. When I realized that I had lost my connection to and desire for sex, it was a disorienting blow to my sense of identity.
In the process of studying and practicing Somatica, I rediscovered my shame-free sexual self and found my way to a profound feeling of aliveness. In the process I have become softer, more resilient, brave, and vulnerable. My lived experience has made it all the more fulfilling because I now also have the capacity for deeper connection and intimacy in my partnerships.
Having experienced the transformation that is possible, I knew this work was mine to do in the world. Somatica Coaching offers a different opportunity for growth than traditional therapy. With the focus on experiential learning, sexuality and eroticism, and authentic relating, change can happen more quickly and more effectively. It is my sincere pleasure to have received and now offer the support, skills, and connection that bring joy and choice into every aspect of life, and in particular the vital experiences of sex and intimacy.